relationship

The author and her husband.

I’m Not The Person My Husband Married

This is not the person my husband married. We're all a little crazy. We're all trying. Tomorrow we will not be the people we are today.

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Previews for a showdown between Kenny & Lee marked a dark turn for Rachel's season of "The Bachelorette." (Image Credit: YouTube/Bachelor Nation on ABC)

Bachelorette Review: Weddings In Wisconsin & More Of Racist, "Alternative Facts" Lee

Due to racist Lee, the night continues to devolve into another series of stereotypes, as the non-Black bachelors in the house get into it with the Black contestants. We’re clearly in store for an epic battle between Kenny and Lee in which fisticuffs are guaranteed to ensue. Peter's keeping it real, but otherwise, this season took a dark turn with episode four.

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You and your partner need to connect over more than scheduling and chore lists. Here are some fun ways to stay in the romance zone. (Image Credit: Mariah Sharp aka @mightymooseart)

11 Ways To Connect With Your Partner When You’re Busy, Broke, Or Both

This week in Love Lessons, connecting with your partner over something more exciting than laundry.

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Me, My Parents, Fox News, And A Screaming Match — Being An Adult Is Complicated

Becoming an adult didn’t magically open me up to their world and their psyche as I thought it would. Even having children of my own did little to unravel the mystery of my parents, because I wasn’t really interested in exploring honestly. I have always been concerned with who my parents were in relation to me, not who they were on their own.

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People tend to attract partners in their complementary attachment style in almost all of their romantic relationships. (Image: Thinkstock)

Are You And Your Partner Romantically Compatible?

Imagine you just went out with someone that you like, and have been out with a few times, but that you’re still not quite sure where things are heading with. Now, imagine that they call you to ask you if you would like to join them at a birthday party on Saturday, for one of their good friends whom they’d like you to meet. What’s your reaction? Are you jumping at the chance to get closer to their inner circle, already preparing your excuse for why you can’t attend, or do you land somewhere in between?

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"Having a partner does offer a certain amount of comfort and validation, but doing the intense external work around body acceptance has been less pressing for me in that context." Image: Thinkstock

Is It Easier To Be Fat And Proud When You're In A Relationship?

In 2007, Kate Harding wrote, "I’ve noticed that a lot of the people I see writing confidently and persuasively about body acceptance are married or in solid long-term relationships… my god, it is hard to develop that confidence when you’re single and not happy about it, and the whole world is telling you the way to fix that is to make yourself prettier — and, of course, that a crucial component of becoming prettier is becoming as thin as you can possibly be, by any means necessary."

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When you’re living with roommates, almost all of the house is “communal space” in which you sort of have to be ready to interact with someone at any time. Image: Thinkstock.

5 Ways To Manage Your Mental Illness When You Live With Friends

My roommates [...] weren't aware that I live with bipolar disorder until a few weeks after I first moved in. In the month or so since, I’ve learned a lot about the way we approach our interpersonal relationships when living with mental illness, especially with those who are closest to us — both emotionally and literally.

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Unlike my childhood, near-daily exposure to fatphobia is not safely in my rearview mirror. That makes healing all the harder. Image: author.

Take The Cake: Fatphobia Gave Me PTSD

I think a lot of us are probably walking around with mild PTSD, anxiously calculating risk and making plans about what and who to avoid.... Even though I’m no longer technically walking the halls of junior high, I am living in a fitness-obsessed city that doesn’t feel as safe as it ought to considering almost everyone is over age 13.

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