BIO

Katherine is a painter, writer, activist, queer, sometimes interfaith-lay-preacher, always animal-lover, and full time mama. She lives in beautiful Detroit, Michigan, with her wife, their baby, and three cats. You can read her musings on family and parenthood at postnuclearera.wordpress.com

Katherine DM Clover's Articles

No, My Child Will Not Be Going To The Zoo

No, I’m not a heartless evil mother who never wants her child to have any fun. But he will not be going. Not for a school field trip. Not with grandma. Not for a playdate with a friend. My child is... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   12.29.16 12am   |   SHARE
When you hold travel up on some kind of pedestal, you sound classist as hell. Image: Joshua Earle/Unsplash.

Your Obsession With Travel Sure Feels Classist To Me

I don’t get out much — and it’s not because I’m boring or don’t have a sense of adventure or don’t care about learning about the larger world: It’s because I’m broke.
Katherine DM Clover    |   12.21.16 12am   |   SHARE
Listen, a vagina is not an artificial waterway for babies to be born.

Let's Talk About Genitals: The Term Birth Canal Is The Actual Worst

The way we as a society discuss genitalia is already messed up and confusing. When the word “vagina” is used to mean everything from, well, “vagina” to “vulva” to “the entire female reproductive... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   11.10.16 12am   |   SHARE
When the next election comes around, he will be able to look at it and say “what is that?”

On Not Talking About The Election With My Toddler

This morning my son woke up laughing. My son woke up laughing and I woke up crying. My son woke up laughing and his little squeaky voice was a light in the darkness to me. I went into his room and... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   11.10.16 8am   |   SHARE
The reality is that I did not become poor because I ate a meal in a restaurant one too many times.

Yes, Poor People Eat Out Sometimes, Deal With It

I’m a poor person. I live below the U.S. poverty line. And yeah, I deserve to make my own financial decisions. The reality is that I did not become poor because I ate a meal in a restaurant one too... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   11.3.16 12am   |   SHARE
No one has ever explained to me what “be careful” means in this context. (Image: Thinkstock)

Why Are Men Always Telling Me To Be Careful?

I’m not scared on the street very often, but y’all, this time I was scared. But if there’s one thing I know, it is that you do not answer these guys, because that only makes it worse. So I held my... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   09.26.16 12am   |   SHARE
For years, I fell into tropes popularized by the romantic comedy genre, without even realizing it. (Image: Thinkstock)

I Hate Romantic Comedies, So Why Do They Matter?

Here’s the thing though, hating romantic comedies, and avoiding them when I could, didn’t stop me from absorbing their all consuming messages about love, sex, and romance.
Katherine DM Clover    |   09.20.16 12am   |   SHARE
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I’ve Experienced Fat Shaming And Thin Shaming And I Can Tell You Which Is Worse

Once upon a time, I was a thin woman. I didn’t actually consider myself “thin,” because our culture is so very fatphobic that no one except the very thinnest of women is allowed to... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   08.30.16 12am   |   SHARE
"We are counting it as a win. We left early, but it was still a huge win." Image: Thinkstock

I Took My 1 Year Old To A Punk Music Festival. Here's What I Learned

There’s just no getting around it, and other than one half-hour spell where he sat with a good friend of ours while both of his moms took a swim, one of us had to be with him the entire weekend. And... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   08.24.16 12am   |   SHARE
"Can you be a parent and still be a person? Can you still have whole and complicated experiences? Maybe the answer is yes." Image: Thinkstock

Dispatches From The Camp-Out Punk Festival To Which I Brought My 1 Year Old

For those of you just tuning in, my wifespouse wanted to go to this weirdo punk festival in the middle of nowhere, and I, a chronic pessimist, decided it would be a good idea to go as a family. That... Read...
Katherine DM Clover    |   08.17.16 12am   |   SHARE