Virgie Tovar

I have met many people who can't say no. We all benefit when we speak clearly and frequently about what we need in order to thrive.

Two weeks ago, I was in West Lafayette, Indiana. I flew into Chicago at around midnight, and I was picked up by new friend and hostess, Mel.

This week in Babecamp we were talking about Sarai Walker’s novel Dietland.

Fat positivity creates room for fat people to be seen with full humanity — not as failed thin people, but as complete and precious.

On Sunday night, I went on a Christmas tree hunting expedition.

Solidarity strategies are possible. They happen all the time — though often less frequently in the realm of romance, unfortunately.

Why is it important to call a diet a diet? Because 1. The truth is actually important and 2. Misleading language only benefits the person peddling it.

I wanted the photos to record exactly how I looked and felt in those moments – double chin and all. I’d like to encourage you to take the leap!

The wound of codependency leaves a haunting question in its wake: Do I actually matter? Diet culture’s answer to fat people is: no.

After years and years of fatphobia-induced body dysmorphia, it’s hard to actually just see my body with anything approaching objectivity. But when I finally looked at the photos of myself in my underwear, I knew there was nothing that fatphobia or my inner asshole could do to take away the beauty and the magic that was right before my eyes.