Virgie Tovar

Though there was useful commentary, deeply personal stories, and some incisive observations, my problem with the episode is that it ultimately repeats a harmful framework:
Fat people (nearly all women) were on trial and up for observation (their privacy already considered non-existent) — not the fatphobic bias that had so clearly shaped their lives.

I spent most of last week in a southern California heat wave.

Fat people, we do not have to acquiesce to our culture's normalization of hierarchy. We do not have to turn the other cheek. Joy does not come at the expense of your dignity, of your humanity.

This week I went to a networking event and had feelings about it. This is the story of those feelings. 

Last week I was sitting anywhere between nineteen and thirty-seven feet from Kevin Bacon.

It’s hard to be fat in this culture (period), but it feels alchemical to me to watch these stars rise to the top — highly visible, on screens all over the world, navigating the entertainment industry and also regular everyday boring ol’ fatphobia as well.

Fat people often get so little attention that feels positive. When someone offers exploitative attention or exploits fat people it can feel really good.

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To me, being a spinster is a lot about prioritizing myself, my needs and my desires over the culture’s needs and desires for my life.

If you like the idea of being with a fat fetishist, I think you should do it. If you hate the idea, then don’t. If you want to experiment with it, try it.