Voices

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Stop Telling Me That You Don't See Color ​

Inevitably, it happens. A well-meaning (or maybe not so well-meaning) white person will utter the phrase, “Well, I just don’t see color.”

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No, I Don't Want To Be Your Token Black Best Friend

I need for people in my life who have or are willing to do the hard work to not to just have me in their life as their token black best friend.

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Eulogies For The Living

A eulogy is an expression of love through grief. I wrote my eulogies in direct address — they are love letters for a love story that isn’t over yet.

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There is probably no holiday more boring than New Year’s Day.

Embracing Solitude On New Year’s Day

Eight years ago, I decided to claim New Year’s Day for myself after I passed a disappointing first Christmas alone in my apartment.

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Halloween is my favorite time of year, and I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I’m autistic.

I'm Autistic, And Halloween Is My Favorite Time Of Year

Halloween can be an autistic person’s worst nightmare with the sensory overload. Yet, I'm autistic and Halloween is my favorite time of year.

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STRUNG OUT: A First Look At Ask Erin's Much Anticipated Memoir

Ravishly presents an exclusive look at the cover and excerpt from of Strung Out, our very own Erin Khar's inspiring and enlightening memoir.

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Five Ways We Can Stand In Our Power

This isn’t an essay about how “woke” I am — instead, it’s a journey of reclamation and standing in my power, which started with my getting sober.

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Jennifer Herbstritt (sister) and Jeremy Herbstritt on their aunt's front porch. (Courtesy of the Herbstritt family)

What The Mother Of A School Shooting Victim Taught Me About Parenthood

While planning to have a child of my own, I often asked myself: What would it feel like to parent a child who later died unexpectedly in a school shooting?

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