trauma

It’s not just that I’m “not a morning person.” Mornings hurt and I experience complex trauma. They make me feel fragile and vulnerable.

My Complex Trauma Is The First Thing To Greet Me Each Morning

It’s not just that I’m “not a morning person.” Mornings hurt and I experience complex trauma. They make me feel fragile and vulnerable.

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That feeling isn't your fault. It's the direct result of a process known as trauma bonding, and understanding this is a crucial step toward setting yourself free.

What Is Trauma Bonding?

The more you are aware of the process of trauma bonding, the more quickly you can identify and avoid falling into a narcissist's trap.

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Take The Cake: Dealing With Multiple Traumas​

Fatphobia is not safely in my rearview mirror. Trying to heal from something as painful as fatphobia (which attacks us to the core!) is a daunting task.

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Commemorating The Anniversary Of My Trauma Helped Me Heal From It

March is always an awful month for me. In Cape Town — my home town — March marks the beginning of autumn. Summer’s exhilarating heat comes to a sobering end. Sweltering afternoons and nights spent around the fire ominously disappear, soon to be replaced by gusts of winds and air so cold it literally hurts your face.

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I've Never Felt Nurtured, And Other Things I've Learned Parenting After Complex Trauma

Before I went to therapy, I married a lot of men, had a lot of children, and worked myself to the bone to achieve career success. If I wasn't happy, it was easy to blame that on my alcoholic, cheating husband or raising a tribe of kids or even working too damn much.

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