Friendship

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How To Get Out Of A Toxic Friendship

Not all relationships are healthy. Here, Nicole Lapin, author of upcoming career guide Becoming Super Woman, shares how to spot bad friendships and how to break them off.  Read...
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Ask Erin: Do I Tell My Best Friend She's Making A Mistake Getting Married?

What breaks my heart is that my friend had this idea recently that she wants to get married to this guy. I think she's making a mistake getting married.

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“Seriously? You’re not going to be my friend over this?” And just like that, it was over. I had lost a friend who I had come to value greatly.

I Lost A Friend Over A Comment I Didn't Think Was A Big Deal

“Seriously? You’re not going to be my friend over this?” And just like that, it was over. I had lost a friend who I had come to value greatly.

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It’s not sexy. It’s not dramatic. It’s not interesting. But it is meaningful and fulfilling, which is something that reality television will never ever be. (Photo by Andrew Robles on Unsplash)

Want To Be A Better Friend? 8 Tips To Help You Achieve Your BFF Goals

I know that our group of friends is special. But the specialness comes from some core values that I will share with you. I will give you fair warning: these are not for people who are interested in receiving. These eight guidelines are for people who are interested in building a community.

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Let’s stop pretending like it’s irrelevant.

Politics Can And Should Ruin Friendships

To claim that something is “just politics” is to point out how much privilege you have, either systematically or incidentally.

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We tried too hard, out of some misplaced sense of lady-love and feminism, when we should have let one another go.

The Truth About Lady Friendships: Some Love Doesn’t Last Forever

Our friendship was over long before that night I hurt her feelings because she hurt mine. Our commonalities were evaporating, we didn’t see one another as often, and I’m fairly certain we didn’t like one another anymore. While growing up, we grew apart — but instead of seeing that natural division as a normal, common and positive part of adulthood, we grew scared and self-conscious and defensive. What does this mean about us, as women? Why can’t we continue to love one another? Are we bad friends? Are we bad people?

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It is extremely difficult to watch a loved one going through a tough time; we may notice feelings of vulnerability, weakness, failure, and helplessness.”

7 Ways To Support A Friend Through A Sad Time — Without Trying To Cheer Them Up

“It can feel quite isolating or even invalidating when someone is trying that ‘Cheer up’ approach, or comparisons like, ‘It’s not so bad, look at the people who have it so much worse’,” explains Tal Schlosser, Clinical Psychologist at My Life Psychologists. “We have the feelings we have and someone saying, ‘Don’t worry about it’ doesn’t make it go away. In fact, we can feel even worse about the fact we can’t just snap out of it.” Part of the motivation to cheer people up is tied to how society typically views emotions. According to Dr Janine Clarke, Psychologist at Mend Psychology and The Sydney ACT Centre, there are six ‘basic,’ universal emotions — sadness, anger, disgust, fear, happiness and surprise — and we’ve been conditioned to perceive happiness as the only one worth pursuing.

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BFF. Or not.

5 Reasons To Break Up With Your BFF

Like if she steals from you — cash or a boyfriend. Or does something illegal she wants you to be a part of — or lie about. I draw the line at felonies (sometimes even misdemeanors) and you probably should, too.

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