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Lipstick Rebellion

My mother was a funny mixture of conservative and iconoclastic, and it showed up in her rules. And this was a BIG one:  Never ever wear pink lipstick.  Read...
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Five Ways We Can Stand In Our Power

This isn’t an essay about how “woke” I am — instead, it’s a journey of reclamation and standing in my power, which started with my getting sober.

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Feminist Dating Survival Guide

One of the most common questions I've received as a sex and dating coach since Tr*mp's election is “how am I supposed to date straight, cis men anymore?”

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We will survive this. We will thrive. We have to. Because the patriarchy will not defeat itself.

I Know You're Tired & This Is Hard, But We Have To Keep Burning It Down

We will survive this. We will thrive. We have to. The patriarchy will not defeat itself we have to keep burning it down. Here are some ways you can act.

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Yes, we should be criticizing these straight, cisgender dads. We’ve been far too easy on them for too long.

We're Too Easy On (Straight, Cisgender) Dads

Yes, we should be criticizing these straight, cisgender dads. We’ve been far too easy on them for too long. It’s straight out of the patriarchy playbook.

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Can you partake in the beauty industry and still feel good about your self-worth?

Can You Enjoy The Beauty Industry Without Hating Yourself?​

Can you partake in the beauty industry — makeup, tutorials, magazines, and the oppressive standards they impose — and still feel good about your self-worth?

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Lady Doritos: The Chips That Don't Crunch

If Doritos wanted to change something, I’d say they should make their chips slightly smaller so the edges don’t scrape the roof of your mouth when you bite into them. That’s all.

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My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive. Photo by Sa'iyda Shabazz

My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive

I’m just as feminine and fun with my glasses as I am without. My glasses sure don't make me less attractive. Glasses are sexy!

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