Considering Consent

Considering Consent

From sex work to church youth groups, the question of consent is at the heart of nearly every human connection. So why do we only seem to ask about it when it’s too late?

Teaching boys about consent.

Teaching Boys About Consent Needs To Start Earlier Than You Think

There are times when I'm teaching my boys about consent that I think, “But he’s only six!” And then I remind myself, if not now, when?

As a sex worker, consent is complicated

I Am A Sex Worker And Consent Is Complicated

I have a choice here: either I tell him to stop, or I can avert his hands elsewhere. This is my life as a sex worker. Consent is complicated!

Sex that isn't consensual is not consensual, whether your married or not.

Is It Sexual Assault If You're Married?

It never felt like sexual assault, him taking the sex I didn’t offer. It felt more like a silent agreement. I surrendered to sex; he didn’t complain.

Celibacy Can't Replace Consent: How Evangelical Sex Ed Fails Teens

Evangelical sex ed fails teens - even thinking about having sex with someone else meant you had already done it in your heart.

My family's culture demands touching.

Consent Is Hard When Your Family's Culture Demands Touching

Sometimes I wouldn’t want anyone to touch me, but I had to put up with it or I would be seen as rude and cold. My family's culture demands touching.

No #MeToo Is Too Small: The Pervasiveness Of Sexual Harassment

We must continue to acknowledge and condemn all forms of sexual harassment, regardless of how society may compartmentalize them, in order for a true cultural shift to occur.

I Didn't Understand Consent Until My Boyfriend Repeatedly Raped Me

The sad thing is, it took someone almost destroying me to make me open my eyes to the extent of what happens when we talk not about a culture of consent, but about temptation and defense instead.