female friendships

I’ve habitually, if unconsciously, compared myself to other white women who, in far greater numbers than women of color, are granted competitor status in America’s Olympics of life.

I need a reminder that this political nightmare can change, and that I’m not alone in my sense of helplessness, hopelessness. I need a reminder that my gender does not by default make me meek and powerless.

I was constantly on the defense, prepared to fight for my young love against those who thought I wasn’t ready for marriage. It pains me to say it, but in a way, they were right after all. There were things I was missing out on by marrying young, things I didn’t even realize I was missing until it was too late.