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Never date someone who doesn’t love your belly!

Take The Cake: Never Date Someone Who Doesn’t Love Your Belly

You deserve someone who loves your body, who makes you feel safe, who makes you feel sexy. Never date someone who doesn’t love your belly! Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   11.16.17   |   SHARE
Why does self-love feel harder than dieting? Let's talk about it!

Take The Cake: Why Does Self-Love Feel Harder Than Dieting?

There is not a single path to self-love, and so you must become an engineer of that process. We have to feel lots of uncomfortable things. Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   11.8.17   |   SHARE
Cake Related Fatphobic Incident — or CRFI for short

Take The Cake: No, I Won't Cut You A Smaller Slice Of Cake

A cake related fatphobic incident is that moment when it's time to eat cake, and an otherwise joyous experience gets ruined by a moralizing impulse. Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   11.2.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: Thin People Aren't "Naturally" Superior To Fat People

Fat people, we do not have to acquiesce to our culture's normalization of hierarchy. We do not have to turn the other cheek. Joy does not come at the Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   10.26.17   |   SHARE
The 3 Levels of Fatphobia are intrapersonal, interpersonal, and institutional.

Take The Cake: The 3 Levels Of Fatphobia

The 3 Levels of Fatphobia are intrapersonal, interpersonal, and institutional. Yes, everyone is affected by fatphobia. But the follow-up question is Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   10.19.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: Meet Chile’s Fat Mafia  

I arrive at the airport and I see the chubby, bespectacled face of my friend, Andrea. This was the beginning of my adventure with Chile's fat mafia! Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   09.28.17   |   SHARE
Vulnerability should be something we thoughtfully protect with boundaries. But never allowing anyone in harms our precious sense of humanity and our right to love.

Take The Cake: Vulnerability Is Haaaaaard

My sad little girl brain remembers exactly what it feels like to risk everything and get rejected. It happened so many times for me during childhood Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   09.7.17   |   SHARE
Femininity as we know it is about smallness — metaphorical and actual. Fat women defy the core tenet of femininity, which is: be small. It doesn’t matter if we “chose” this power or not.

Take The Cake: Dear Fat Girl, Do You Know How Powerful You Are?

My unique capacity to see the vile underbelly of “normal” life made me an important witness to the reality of cultural failure. My inability to pass Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   08.31.17   |   SHARE