grief

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The Myth of Being Over Depression

Depression is with you forever. Sometimes it’s like a gentle rain you can keep walking through; other times it’s like a tidal wave, dragging you under, no matter how much you struggle to come up for air. Read...
Jennifer Herbstritt (sister) and Jeremy Herbstritt on their aunt's front porch. (Courtesy of the Herbstritt family)

What The Mother Of A School Shooting Victim Taught Me About Parenthood

While planning to have a child of my own, I often asked myself: What would it feel like to parent a child who later died unexpectedly in a school shooting?

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Lessons On Losing My Family And Finding My Home

I did it. I finally did it. And it only took my whole family dying to get me here.

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Grieving the loss of a baby is a process, and I am unsure if we ever complete that process. But I do think we can get to a place of acceptance. (artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Need Help Overcoming The Loss Of A Baby

Grieving the loss of a baby is a process, and I am unsure if we ever complete that process. But I do think we can get to a place of acceptance.

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You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

Why I’ll Never, Ever Get Over My Girlfriend’s Murder

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

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Eulogies For The Living

A eulogy is an expression of love through grief. I wrote my eulogies in direct address — they are love letters for a love story that isn’t over yet.

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5 Things To Say To A Mother Who Has Lost Her Baby

If you say nothing else, say this. A simple “I am so sorry” says that you care. You see the pain, You honor it. If this is all you can say, just say this.

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I had retrieved at least one constant in my mother’s life: her love of puzzles and word games.

Finding My Unsolvable Mother In Her Left-Behind Crossword Puzzles​

Looking at her left-behind crossword puzzles, I had retrieved at least one constant in my mother’s life: her love of puzzles and word games.

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