Rape

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I’m A Rape Survivor; This Is How My Husband & I Handle Intimacy

Assault does not disappear because the new identities of “spouse” or “mother” accumulate in your wake. This is how my husband and I handle intimacy.

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I blamed myself for what happened and internalized the guilt and shame that many survivors feel after sexual violence.

I Was Sexually Assaulted On Valentine's Day

My sexual assault is the main reason my girlfriend and I didn’t celebrate the love-infested holiday for the first six years of our relationship. Last Valentine’s Day, a month after we celebrated seven years together, was our first time embracing the holiday as our own.

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A Moment For A Man, A Lifetime For His Victim

My story does have a happy ending. Still, I’ll never forget. We survivors live every day with complicated consequences. Our assaulters do not.

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Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Ask Erin: Can A Woman Rape A Woman?

I don't feel like this counts as rape. It wasn't violent, and she didn't drug me. This feels like one of those grey areas, but is it?

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We Have To Stop Holding Survivors To Impossible Standards

Because survivors aren’t masked superheroes: They’re humans.

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I'm immediately remorseful of the action I've committed whether I was under the influence or not. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Did I Commit Marital Rape?

I've been beating myself over the past few days, and my wife — who I love, respect, and can't live without — can’t look at me or speak to me.

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I feel like I’m in this in-between space where I have deep sympathies for sexual assault victims and am incredibly passionate about issues of rape culture.

To All Those Who Don't Know If They've Been Sexually Assaulted 

I feel like I’m in this in-between space where I have deep sympathies for sexual assault victims and am incredibly passionate about issues of rape culture.

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If you don’t want false rape accusations, don’t sexually assault anyone.

To Men Afraid Of "False Rape Accusations:" Try Being A Woman

If you don’t want false rape accusations, don’t sexually assault anyone. Don’t even come close to sexually assaulting anyone.

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