Sex + Love

Soulmining Is The New Dating Trend You NEED To Know About

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To all the boys who ghosted me, and those who were soulmining me the whole time.
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I Like My Husband... But I Love My Vibrator

Here I am, a happily married 35-year-old woman, sneaking around with a battery-operated boyfriend, but before you brand me the world’s worst wife, let me clarify.
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Planning A Threesome Allowed Me To Take Control Of My Sexuality

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When my husband planned an anniversary trip to Las Vegas, he was thinking about live music and long drives through the southwest. I thought of something else: a threesome with the two of us and hired help.
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My Most Sexually Empowering Choice? Not Having Sex

How much sex you have has nothing to do with how sexually empowered you are.

There’s nothing worse than taking a pregnancy test when you don’t want to be pregnant.

It’s especially bad when you don’t know who the father is.

Last year, this is the exact situation I found myself in: 23, single, not on contraception, and with a late period. I was nothing short of panicked.

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I Had An Emotional Affair — And I’m Not Sorry

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That’s the tricky thing about an emotional affair. There isn’t a thing or act which defines it. It is full of gray areas.
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The Fear Of Dying Alone Kept Me In An Unhappy Marriage

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“I don’t want to die alone,” I mutter to myself as I sweep the kitchen floor in my new home. These words represent my greatest fear.

It’s a Saturday morning, and I am alone. A loud silence rings in my home. It's a silence formed by my son, who is not here. There isn’t an iPad blaring with cartoons on Netflix or Hulu. The only noise is a broom raking across a linoleum floor. The sink is filled with pots and pans, remnants of a recent dinner. Alongside the casserole dishes and saucepans is a solitary plate. 

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Here’s What To Do When You’re FURIOUS With Your Partner

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What do you do when you’re angry with your partner?
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What I Learned When I Hired A Dating Coach

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This article first appeared on SHE'SAID' and has been republished with permission.


I never thought I’d be the kind of person who’d ever admit they needed help. But I’d had my heart smashed into pieces, and my bad dating choices were making me depressed. For instance, I was dating this one guy, and, let’s just say, there were four other women who could have said the same thing about him.

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Aziz Ansari’s Sexual Misconduct Story Highlights The Importance Of Teaching Sex Ed

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How do we expect adults such as Aziz Ansari to understand the components of consent if we are not emphasizing this type of education as early as possible?

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Everyone Needs Consent, Including Your Significant Other

That gut feeling I had of “this is wrong” — that respectful people don’t just go around taking — was correct.

Love is respect. Everyone needs consent, and that doesn’t exclude your significant other. I’ll say it plainly: partners need consent too.

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