self-care

For many, it's impossible to turn on the news without feeling a strong response to many of the events unfolding in our world. Here's how to feel better.

As a therapist, I specialize in families dealing with trauma. My work is hard, so like any good therapist, I engage in self-care. Yet, it's not enough.

I propose going back to basics, back to what self-care is supposed to be about. Instead of this new flashy and expensive self-care movement.

As women we aren't meant to have needs as much as we are meant to fulfill needs. We fundamentally do not believe we deserve nice things. Let's change that!

That’s when I decided that Snapchat shows me how I look to other people — which is pretty damn gorgeous! And then, I felt the self-love start to flow.

Look in the corners, in the out-of-the-way spaces, in the barely muttered requests, that’s where you find the good girl. And I'm done being a good girl!

At the tail-end of a Hold My Beer, 2016 sort of year, we could all use a little more self-care in our lives. Add to that the typical stressors of a holiday season — no matter what you celebrate — and you've got a recipe calling for a generous extra helping of some personal TLC.

Maybe I'm not as confident and comfortable with myself as I appear to the outside world. But it's time and I'm giving up unattainable perfection.

I’m writing this, and I don’t even fully know how to tell you to slow down during your busy life because the truth is, I’m learning how to do this myself.