Kate Washington

From the beginning, mothering and being mothered are both brutal. One day you’ll hurt your mom, I thought. And she’ll hurt you, somehow, without knowing it.

I’m not arguing for hoarding. I dislike clutter. But paring possessions down to the bone can cut too deep for tender times. I regret decluttering.

I wasn’t sure I could throw a successful fundraiser, but I did — and wore a caftan while doing it. It feels amazing, especially in these difficult times.