Sex + Love

I was actually keeping the promise I’d made to myself and sticking to all the self-help advice I’d read. THAT WAS A FIRST!

Nothing about my decision to move on focus my time and energy on myself and my children instead of my failing marriage was taken casually or quickly.

I suddenly understood why I felt this intense pressure to make my lesbian wedding so wildly spectacular — to stick to the homophobes.

I hear internet dating success stories all the time. My story never seems to quite go that way. I’ll just be sitting here waiting for my weirdo.

When I told my friends, family, and therapist we were back together, they were worried. That’s when we had the idea to write up a contract.

I still want to be in a relationship eventually, and have a family and all that, but right now I am happy being single, and that scares me.

Even though we are no longer living together as a married couple, it’s not the end of our relationship — it just means carrying on in a new way.

How on earth could I have been married to a man for 15 years and not recognize that he had Asperger Syndrome? Looking back, there were clues.