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How Music Is Helping Me Cope With Turning 40

I’m turning 40 in April. I am mostly at peace with the looming milestone birthday, but every once in a while, the gravity of it all hits me.

I’m turning 40 in April. I am mostly at peace with the looming milestone birthday, but every once in a while, the gravity of it all hits me.

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Life Begins At 50, And Age Doesn't Define Me

I have refused to let my age define how I am supposed to behave.

I have refused to let my age define how I am supposed to behave as a mother, as a chef, as a writer, and most importantly as a woman.

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To Gray Or Not To Gray? On Hair Dye And Aging

I’m beginning to have mixed feelings about coloring my hair.

There is a distinct moment in each woman’s life when gray hair and the associated reality of aging make its first unwelcome appearance.

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Can You Enjoy The Beauty Industry Without Hating Yourself?​

Can you partake in the beauty industry and still feel good about your self-worth?

Can you partake in the beauty industry — makeup, tutorials, magazines, and the oppressive standards they impose — and still feel good about your self-worth?

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The Summer My Mother's Progressive Arthritis Taught Me To Love And Let Go​

My mom helped me find the balancing point between caretaking and controlling because she insisted on her autonomy. “I don’t need your help in the shower,” she’d say, “and I can dress myself.”

That summer became the fulcrum of a seesaw: as my children need me less, my mother needed me more. My mother's arthritis taught me to love and let go.

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Being Judgy About Beauty Treatments Was Just My Own Baggage

Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to not be judgy about beauty treatments.

Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to withhold judgment, especially contempt for actions that bring personal joy at life stages you haven’t reached yet. (Though I’m still not married and get cranky that women are taking their husband’s last names more so than twenty years ago.)

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Men May Prefer Younger Women, But Women Don’t Give A Sh*t

Overall, women don’t want to be 22 again.

When men’s dating preferences were observed, the age of women they expressed interest in never (never!) deviated from the early 20s.

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Can You Ever Get Over Your Body Being Too Much?

Do I want to spend the next half of my life battling a new set of reasons why my body is wrong?

Over the almost 40 years that I’ve been on this planet, I’ve absorbed the message — whether it’s about my hair, pale skin, or the size of particular body parts — that I’m too much.

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My Favorite Pictures Are The Ones Where I Look Like Crap

In so many of the pictures where I’m happiest, I don’t look my best.

Even though I love how I look in those picture-perfect selfies, I love the less than flawless photos too, and I’m not going to stop sharing them.

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Life As A 39-Year-Old With Fully Gray Hair

The comments I get, you would not believe. (Image Credit: Kristi Pahr)

I found my first gray hair when I was 12 years old. Twelve. I had gray hair before I had a period.

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