labor

This Mother's Day Let's Stop Treating Emotional Labor Like Extra-Credit Work For Men 

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...[M]en get a lot of praise for the “extra-credit work” they do in regards to domestic labor (the actual house cleaning and keeping work) and emotional labor (the invisible work that ensures the rest gets done) no matter what day of the year.

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I Regret Circumcising My First Two Sons, So I Didn’t Circumcise The Third

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When my son came out of surgery seventeen-and-a-half years later, I held him and cried with him and said I was sorry. I regret circumcising my son!

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This Is Not How Nurses Treat Babies

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A nurse in Jacksonville, FL thinks it’s hilarious to use newborns like puppets for her own amusement. This is NOT how nurses treat babies!

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To The Mommas Whose Births I Have Had The Honor Of Witnessing

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My most precious memories are of the births of my own children, and right next to those, the memories of all the mommas and daddies and babies I have witnessed become families.

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My VBAC Was Supposed To Be Magic; Nope, I Hated It

I hit a wall, and begged for an epidural. (Image: Thinkstock)

When I got pregnant for the third time, I was determined to have an unmedicated VBAC. I had big plans. This VBAC was going to be my birth experience salvation. It was going to be empowering and amazing and heal all my hangups. I was going to be a mama goddess and everything was going to be perfect. I was wrong.

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The Birth Of My Son Was A Beautiful Experience, Thanks To An Epidural.

The epidural had turned the birth from an excruciating experience into a beautiful one. Image: Thinkstock.

It felt like I was being knifed in the stomach. My husband suggested a shower. I grabbed him, looked him in the eye and said, “I know you’re trying to be supportive. But if you really want to support me, GET ME AN EPIDURAL NOW.”

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If Childcare Is The Key To Gender Equality And Parental Happiness, Can We Get It Now?

Shulevitz thus calls for a feminism — one that she calls “caregiverism” — that “demand[s] dignity and economic justice for parents dissatisfied with a few weeks of unpaid parental leave.” Image: Thinkstock.

Judith Shulevitz recently noted in the New York Times that although “unmarried childless women have overcome every barrier to opportunity you can think of... Mothers, on the other hand, aren’t doing nearly as well.” According to Shulevitz, this is because the feminists of Hillary Clinton’s generation focused on demanding equality for women in the workplace.

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The Best Laid (Birth) Plans Are None of Your Business

The last thing we need is one more thing to feel inadequate about, one more thing to feel like we’re doing “wrong” when it comes to having a baby. Image: Thinkstock.

While people asking about our plan likely have good intentions, the conversation opens you up to so much judgment about how you’re planning to give birth.... Birth plans are personal, between parents and their care provider. We all make choices for our families that we feel are best, and at the end of the day, that’s what matters.

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Whether Or Not Someone Gets An Epidural Is None Of Your Business

My epidural made me stop wanting to die. Image: Thinkstock.

We compare birth stories like war stories. Twelve hours of labor, 32 hours of labor, three hours of pushing, we fall into the trap of trying to one-up each other. So yes, I can see why, to a parent-to-be who is enthusiastically anticipating pain relief, the refusal of an epidural might seem like a bit of a hero complex. And maybe for some people it is! But it’s none of your goddamn business.

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The Shower, PTSD, And My Traumatic Labor

The baby is on the outside. Image: Thinkstock.

[CN: PTSD, pregnancy, birth] Something snapped inside me and I was transported backwards in time.

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