Gigi Engle

Forget a hot bod! I just want someone who knows himself.

Recognizing your own faults in relationships is hard. Here are some definitive signs you’re actually the problem in your relationship.

You can’t change a fuckboy.

Here’s the absolute truth: you cannot change a fuckboy unless he wants to change by himself. This is where girls get messed up. They think that a guy is going to change his crappy behavior for HER. This is not the case 99.9% of the time. If he’s a fuckboy, he’s not ready to stop being one. It doesn’t matter how great you are or how much you love him. Trust me.

He has to make that decision for himself.

Attention everyone: DIY sex toys are NOT a good idea. Here’s why.

I was such a dipshit in my 20s when it came to sex. If I had a nickel for every orgasm I faked, I wouldn’t owe Uncle Sam an arm and a leg in student loans. TBH, it makes sense that we’d adopt some unsavory sex practices in our younger years. What else are you supposed to do when you’ve been told your entire life to please your partner and just go along with it? Your 20s can be a shy time. You don’t know how to ask for what you want because you fear rejection. It’s time to leave that shit behind.

You don’t even have to be a good person to be incredible at sex, apparently (my ex proves this).

If we stopped buying into the idea that it takes a relationship to be whole, we’d all be better people. I'm happy I'm single!

It’s no secret that sex ed is a mess.

There are still parts of the world where women/vagina owners aren’t allowed inside their own home or community when they’re menstruating. They’re seen as impure. I believe the scientific term for all of this thinking is “total and utter bull.”

I’m a pretty confident lady, and yet, I would never date someone who stayed close friends with their ex. I just wouldn’t.