Virgie Tovar
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My boundaries around how people can talk to me about my body are very clear. I’d like to share with you four body boundary tips for a better holiday.
Read...My jaw clenches in judgmental discomfort whenever I think of any event with "BBW" in the title. To me, the term "BBW" is coded. When I hear that word, my eyes begin a preemptive roll as the keywords "heteronormativity," "hookup," "gendered labor," "mansplaining," and "ugh" scroll past the neon pink kiosk in my brain.
Read...After years and years of fatphobia-induced body dysmorphia, it’s hard to actually just see my body with anything approaching objectivity. But when I finally looked at the photos of myself in my underwear, I knew there was nothing that fatphobia or my inner asshole could do to take away the beauty and the magic that was right before my eyes.
Read...I have met many people who can't say no. We all benefit when we speak clearly and frequently about what we need in order to thrive.
Read...To me, being a spinster is a lot about prioritizing myself, my needs and my desires over the culture’s needs and desires for my life.
Read...I was taught that weight loss was self-care, but then I did a bunch of research and realized dieting is actually the patriarchal destruction of my body.
Read...Recently there’s been an uptick in fatphobic derailments, and I thought it would be helpful to share them as well my responses to them.
Read...I find that clarity is the key to getting the exact heterosexual intercourse you want. Part of this involves taking the gloves off around discussions of my body. So, I said it in the ad:
“I weigh 250 pounds.”
