Virgie Tovar
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I’ve been ashamed of my indirect communication style for a really long time. Recently I realized that I was done feeling shame for the way I navigate.
Read...I have met many people who can't say no. We all benefit when we speak clearly and frequently about what we need in order to thrive.
Read...I just spent the weekend at adult fat camp — admittedly, a very different kind of fat camp than I used to dream about all those years ago.
Read...It takes a lot of ongoing effort, labor, and love to fight for justice and to question the culture. People in the “choir” opt out of fitting in or playing nice. We dedicate a lot of time to being conscientious citizens.
Read...Fat people often get so little attention that feels positive. When someone offers exploitative attention or exploits fat people it can feel really good.
Read...Jealousy is such an interesting thing to me. As immediate and intense as it feels when it hits, it has always struck me as a secondary — a smokescreen for something else.
Read...Though there was useful commentary, deeply personal stories, and some incisive observations, my problem with the episode is that it ultimately repeats a harmful framework:
Fat people (nearly all women) were on trial and up for observation (their privacy already considered non-existent) — not the fatphobic bias that had so clearly shaped their lives.
