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My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive. Photo by Sa'iyda Shabazz

My Glasses Don't Make Me Less Attractive

I’m just as feminine and fun with my glasses as I am without. My glasses sure don't make me less attractive. Glasses are sexy!

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Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to not be judgy about beauty treatments.

Being Judgy About Beauty Treatments Was Just My Own Baggage

Obviously, now from my elder perch, I realize it’s best to withhold judgment, especially contempt for actions that bring personal joy at life stages you haven’t reached yet. (Though I’m still not married and get cranky that women are taking their husband’s last names more so than twenty years ago.)

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This is a beginner’s guide to mansplaining on Facebook (image credit: Tim Gouw via Unsplash)

A Beginner’s Guide To Mansplaining On Facebook

Right now, on Facebook and Twitter and other social media platforms, thousands of women are freely sharing knowledge, opinions, and personal experiences. Chilling, isn’t it? If you’re a man on the internet, your duty is to swiftly and decisively correct them. This is a beginner’s guide to mansplaining on Facebook.

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Image credit: Tim Gouw via Unsplash

Please Stop Infantilizing Me — Especially In The Workplace

When we assume women are younger, we associate their youth with their lack of life experiences. Particularly in a workplace environment, the assumption that a female colleague looks younger wrongfully and negatively reflects on their professional experience, even though they likely worked harder than their male counterparts to get there.

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There is room for all of us to have full humanity. We shouldn’t settle for less.

Take The Cake: F*ck Acceptance. Give Me Change

I don’t want to move the line of the socially acceptable body by 50 or 100 or 150 pounds. I want to get rid of the line altogether because the line hurts everyone — even the people who are seen as the “winners.”

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"All I want is a hamburger with pastrami on it and to write a story about dick." (Image Credit: Mighty Moose Art, @mightymooseart)

Take The Cake: Diary For May 10 - Pastrami, Dick, Feelings

The point is: no matter how wonderfully delicious a man (or anyone) is, once you’ve seen him sneeze, fall, eat peanut butter or chew loudly, if there’s nothing else (or mostly nothing else), then he will ultimately make your skin crawl. So, there’s no point after all, right? In doing things the way we know how to do them?

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I faced that fear with a hair cut. It showed me my unique beauty, unbound by societal expectations.

Why Cutting Your Hair Short Equals Better Sex

If a man isn’t attracted to me because of my hair, it tells me two things: Number one, he has a one-dimensional perception of femininity. Number two, he’s an asshat.

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Be careful not to be too active, because sweat and moisture ruins the tape’s grip.

Neck Tape: Because Women Aren’t Uncomfortable Enough Yet

“Introducing Nexsey! No more shall we hide our necks as we age!” Hold the phone, people. Something else to make us feel inadequate has been invented. It’s called Nexsey and it’s a piece of medical grade TAPE used to rein in neck wrinkles.

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