sex positivity

Saying cis-men want more sex and women want less straight up shames us ALL.

Saying Men Want More Sex & Women Want Less Shames Us All

By saying all people who identify as women want less sex and men want more, you’re grossly generalizing two large groups in a way that is both Read...
Gigi Engle    |   09.19.17   |   SHARE
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Sex positive does not mean I’m always available for sex.

The Complicated Intersection Of Being Female, Sex Positive, And Monogamous AF

It is a strange thing to find oneself at the tentative intersection of being female, sex positive, and in a long-term, monogamous relationship. Read...
Gigi Engle    |   08.29.17   |   SHARE
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People (particularly women) who are unabashed in their sex positivity and who refuse to be ashamed of their bodies are seen as threats to the status quo. Image: Thinkstock.

I'm Not Ashamed Of My STI — And Now I'm Being Harassed Because Of It. #ShoutYourStatus

I’ve been writing about stigmatized topics on the Internet for almost 10 years, so it’s never a surprise to me when I get pushback or face trolling Read...
Britni de la Cretaz    |   12.20.16   |   SHARE
Nobody orgasms when they feel uncomfortable. (Image: Thinkstock)

7 Sex Tips For Uncoordinated People

I have accumulated plenty of sex tips for fellow uncoordinated people. Embrace your quirks so everyone can get off! Here are seven of my absolute Read...
Gigi Engle    |   10.11.16   |   SHARE
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The reason I love and respect the women of the show is their openness and hilariousness about sex. Image: MTV UK.

The Girls Of Geordie Shore: Unlikely Paragons Of Sex Positivity

Many criticize Geordie Shore as entertainment in its lowest form: fights, drinking, people falling over, nudity, swearing, and “bucking” (sexual Read...
Annie Walton Doyle    |   07.25.16   |   SHARE
We shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed of our pasts, just because they’re different from what we want in the present. Image: Thinkstock.

Stop Asking Your Partners How Many People They've Slept With

I’m not writing this in order to get defensive about my number of partners, by the way. I’ve had sex with around 25 people since the end of 2012 and Read...
Matt Joseph Diaz    |   07.13.16   |   SHARE
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Slut-shaming is how we explain the gendered double standard of sexual respectability: It’s women taking flak for the sex we have, while men are applauded for simply “doing what men do.” Image: Thinkstock.

How STI Stigma Perpetuates Slut-Shaming

Four years ago, I could be found most mornings at the same café with the same blue notebook and a mug of hot coffee. I was trying to write the story Read...
Sarit Luban    |   04.22.16   |   SHARE
She was my Mr. Miyagi — except she was a cute young woman and there was a lot less karate.

4 Things I Learned From Dating A Professional Dominatrix

In the spring of 2013, I met a woman on OKCupid. She was petite, with a kind smile and a voice so soft that it could melt all your troubles away. Her Read...
Matt Joseph Diaz    |   03.30.16   |   SHARE
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