Natalie Slaughter

Even a Google search will conflate “queer women” with “lesbian.” So the first and most obvious thing I wish people understood about being a queer woman, is that we exist.

[N]o one held my molester down and called the police for what he did to me. He was quietly escorted away, and over the course of a few months, the whispers of support turned into accusations.

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

There’s a lot more information about what it’s like to be a fat woman and the things you should and shouldn’t say. Here's what I want everyone to know...

A polyamorous relationship is like any other relationship — you set rules and sometimes you hit bumps along the way, but everyone involved knows what is and isn’t acceptable.

If I have sex with a woman, it does not make me gay. As someone who identifies as female, it doesn’t even make me a lesbian.

To claim that something is “just politics” is to point out how much privilege you have, either systematically or incidentally.

Because you only get one shot at life.

There’s a lot more to sexuality than meets the eye.