Natalie Slaughter

At this point gender basically exists to sell us stuff.

Is anything keeping you from believing that you deserve good things?

We’ve all made bad choices when it comes to dating. Mine involves Hannah Montana, a tractor, and an awkward invitation to a threesome.

Even a Google search will conflate “queer women” with “lesbian.” So the first and most obvious thing I wish people understood about being a queer woman, is that we exist.

I’m very aware of the fact that I’m fat — trust me. I’ve had this body for longer than you’ve been familiar with it.

There’s a lot more to sexuality than meets the eye.

There’s a lot more information about what it’s like to be a fat woman and the things you should and shouldn’t say. Here's what I want everyone to know...

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

It's okay to dump your friends — even friends who have been there for you in the past. Remember today that you deserve good things and good people.