Patricia Grisafi

Patricia Grisafi

Bio

Patricia Grisafi, PhD, is a freelance writer and educator. Her work has appeared in Salon, Vice, Bitch, Bustle, Broadly, The Establishment, and elsewhere. She is passionate about pit bull rescue, cursed objects, and designer sunglasses. 

Patricia Grisafi Articles

We receive mixed cultural messages about antidepressants and pregnancy. (Image: Thinkstock)

Should You Take Anti-Depressants During Pregnancy?

When my husband and I began trying to conceive, I was anxious about how my antidepressant medication would affect a pregnancy, especially after reading terrifying pseudo-scientific articles and judgmental, paranoid commentary lurking in The Seventh Circle of Hell known as mommy boards.

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How could I protect him? How could I raise him to be a good son? What if I couldn’t?

What If I Fail At Raising A Good Son? 

I was afraid of the world getting its hands on my kid. How could I protect him? How could I raise him to be a good son? What if I couldn’t?

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She had lived a long time, but constant fear had governed her life.

What My Grandmother Taught Me About Fear Culture

Perhaps more than other cultures, America is obsessed with the illusion that if we prepare, we can avoid. Instead of learning to be resilient and cope with hardship, we drive ourselves dangerously close to madness trying to come up with ways to prevent catastrophes.

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I was going to be left behind while everyone chatted about diapers and boppies and bonded over shared maternal experiences.

Navigating The Grief Of Miscarriage When Your Friends Have Babies

Miscarriage steals your ability to prepare for the future, to trust your body, your mind, and your support system.

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Mothers And Daughters At The Chelsea Hotel

My mother and I may never see eye to eye on politics, and our value systems may seldom align. Sometimes it feels like we try to breach this divide; other times we dig a deeper rift.

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I wavered between pride and self-loathing. Those marks were mine; I had made them.

On Self-Harm: The Scars That Remain 

The first time I was inspired to injure myself was when I was thirteen. I had just read Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, an advice book my mother had hidden on the shelf between some garish ceramic dancing girls, books on cocker spaniels, and her and my father’s decaying wedding cake topper. In the book, a well-meaning psychologist told stories about teenage girls acting out, and self-injury was just one of many ways. I wasn’t the type to climb out the window on a rope made of bed sheets, so self-harm made a lot of sense.

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Before you send “thoughts and prayers” to a friend or family member in pain, reflect on whether you could be doing more harm than good.

Enough With Thoughts And Prayers

When my boyfriend broke up with me my sophomore year of high school, I was inconsolable.

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