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Ask Erin: How Do I Tell My Friends With Kids To Back Off?

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

My friends with kids seem to think I'm fair game for blow-by-blow plays about the tiniest details of their day for hours at a time.

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What If A Child Is Right For Me, But Childbirth Isn’t?

Wanting a child and wanting to experience childbirth are two very different things.

Wanting a child and wanting to experience childbirth are two very different things.

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If You Say You’ve Never Regretted Having Kids, You’re Lying

Being a mother is complicated.

No regrets about having kids? Maybe it’s time we all came clean.

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Stop Judging Women On Their Choice To Have (Or Not Have) Kids

I want us all to carefully consider the terms in which we describe our choices to others in order to pare them from implicit value judgments on other women’s choices.

I’m not here to scream from the other side of my parenting choice. What I want is for women’s choices regarding fertility to be supported, full stop.

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Becoming Bride: Don't Bring Your Crying Kids To My Wedding

Leave the kids at home. Image: Thinkstock.

The quickest way to reveal yourself as a douchenozzle — not to mention unoriginal — is to remind someone who’s about to get married that most marriages end in divorce. The second-quickest way to offend is tell us what our wedding has to be like or whom we need to invite.

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6 Things All Parents Want Their Childfree Friends To Understand

We’re still the same people we always were. Image: Thinkstock.

Yes, a lot of parents are assholes. But you know what? A lot of people are assholes; some of them happen to have kids, some don’t. I can’t speak for all parents, and I wouldn’t want to try. But speaking as one particular person with kids, here’s what I wish my childfree friends would understand…

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I'm In My 20s And I Know I Don't Want Kids

The fact that your opinions are subject to change doesn’t make them invalid as they exist now. Image: Thinkstock.

I'm 23 years old, I don’t want children, and every elder who discovers this feels compelled to tell me how wrong I am about my own feelings.

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When None Of Your Feminist Friends Want Kids

Children make me giddy, whether I’m on the subway or in the park. Image: Adrianna Calvo/Pexels.

Most of my friends are my age or slightly older and yet virtually none of them want children… ever. They argue that women deserve respect and autonomy over their bodies. I passionately agree. A few of these friends are, like me, engaged or married, but even they don’t want kids. One of my engaged friends says she and her fiancé may want to adopt children later in life, after they’ve had the chance to travel extensively.

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20 Non-BS Life Lessons I Learned By Age 30

Spend most of your money on travel. Image: Andrew Phillips/Unsplash.

Now that I’ve turned 30 (and wear caftans) I’m done reading vapid click-bait offering prosaic advice. This is not one of those articles.

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10 Actual Things I've Heard Because I'm Almost 30 And Don't Have Kids

Seriously, stop saying these sorts of things to people who can get pregnant, even if you are one yourself. Image: Thinkstock.

There are so many reasons someone might not have kids. Whether they decided to never have kids, are having difficulties getting pregnant, or just don’t want kids right now, it’s really not up to you.

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