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3 Dream Magic Rituals And Practices

"In sleep, I become a garden of roses blooming in the dark." Read...

Quitting Your Job To Follow Your Dreams Is For White People

Let’s be real: pursuing you passion is a luxury reserved for the privileged. Read...
All the medical data seems pointed towards widowers losing their sex drive. Mine has suddenly kicked into overdrive. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! I'm A Widower And Having Vivid Dreams About My Deceased Partner

I’m a 35-year-old widower with two little girls to look after. It has now been a little over two years since my wife died. Quite suddenly, since last winter, I began having multiple very erotic dreams, always about my late wife. All the medical data seems pointed towards widowers losing their sex drive. Mine has suddenly kicked into over drive.

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I Have C-PTSD But You’d Never Guess Why

When my therapist told me in 2012 that I presented with symptoms of PTSD, I was relieved, but also in disbelief.

I remember the body I envisioned for myself: “Strong-looking” (not strong), “toned” (not bulky), “healthy” (trim). Image: Thinkstock.

How Trying To Take Up Less Space Landed Me In Physical Therapy

I don’t remember when I started holding in my stomach. [...] It’s hard to trace a habit so ingrained that I don’t know it exists. Until I’m lying on a table and her hand rests at my solar plexus and she tells me to let go. I can’t. I don’t know how, or not yet.

The plan was to write full-time. With all the kids in school, this is the first opportunity I will have to come close to achieving that goal. Image: Thinkstock.

All The Kids Are In School: What I Plan "To Do" With Myself

I’m not saying having children doesn’t change things. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t reevaluate our life choices as we build our families. What I AM saying is that we must stop hinting to cisgender women that once they’ve had kids, their lives are laid out for them.

 smaller, less glamorous fears can be much more important to face than the huge, exciting ones. They can be scarier too, and much more complex.

Sweating The Small Stuff

I’d been so busy patting myself on the back for conquering my big fears, I failed to acknowledge that the types of things that scare me had shifted. A lot of the obvious stuff didn’t bother me anymore — but what about all the smaller, more personal things that still scared the living shit out of me?

Pregnant = steamy dreams?

Do You Have Vivid Sex Dreams When You're Pregnant? ME TOO

The sex dreams that have caught me completely off-guard. I don’t generally have much of a sex drive during my pregnancy when I’m awake, but when I’m asleep, it’s a completely different story. I have these incredibly vivid, incredibly-detailed sex dreams almost every night. Often, they involve celebrities.