Erin Khar

Erin Khar


Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. She was the recipient of a 2012 Eric Hoffer Editor's Choice Prize for her story, "Last House at the End of the Street," which was published in the Best New Writing 2012 anthology. Her work has also appeared in From the Depths, Sliver of Stone, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, The Manifest-Station, and a Spark Off Rose live show. She is currently working on her first book, a memoir. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210. 

Erin Khar Articles

Why can't I leave him once and for all?

Ask Erin: My Partner's Bad For Me — Why Can't I Let Them Go?

I'd like your opinion on why a smart, formerly-independent woman can't break ties with someone who I know is emotionally manipulating me, making me question myself, uses me as an option at his convenience, is a womanizer, and admits to being a narcissist?

Photo by Mindy Tucker

How To Be Alone: A Q&A With Lane Moore

Here at Ravishly, we've long been a fan of her writing, so it was a pleasure to chat with her about her book, How to Be Alone.

Lane Moore is best known as an award-winning sex and relationships editor, a comedian, a rock singer, and an actor. But Lane’s story has had its fair share of ups and downs, from teaching herself how to become her own parent, to living as a homeless teenager in her car, to moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Even as she felt increasingly cut off from others, she looked to her childhood heroines (like Anne of Green Gables) and romantic heroes (like Jim Halpert from The Office) to remain a hopeless romantic, and believe that she could create for herself the family she never had.

Separation anxiety.

Ask Erin: Help! My Wife And I Are Separated; What’s The Appropriate Protocol? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

Beware of the boa constrictor...

Ask Erin!: Burned In The Bay And The Boa Constrictor

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

I need help getting closure. What was it about me that wasn't enough for her?

Ask Erin: When We Broke Up, My Partner Of 3 Years Said She Never Loved Me. Help!

I need help getting closure. What was it about me that wasn't enough for her? I don’t know if I didn’t give enough or if I did something wrong at some point...

I know in my heart that these feelings of failure will pass. I know that I can't expect myself to be a robot and be perfect at handling everything, all at once, all the time.

Rav’s Repro: Failure To Thrive 

Failure to thrive. It’s an awful term. All I heard was failure. In my mind, over and over, you’ve failed him, you’ve failed him.

I’ve become kind of obsessed with this, and I know I shouldn’t.

Ask Erin: Help! I Can't Stop Stalking My Boyfriend On Social Media

I wanted my boyfriend to post pictures with me. I posted pics as well. This might sound childish, but there were always these girls trying to break us up. So, for me, that's how it worked — posting pictures regularly would let them know that we’re still together.

What she didn’t know — and what I didn’t say — is that I was one of THOSE people, one who ended up with a needle in her arm.

I Used To Be A Heroin Addict And Now I’m A Mom

When I found out I was pregnant, I reluctantly made the choice to stay clean. I doubted my decision (both to have this baby and to stay sober) the entire pregnancy and was unsure of how I would feel or what I would do when my child was born. Everyone around me was unsure, too. My parents discussed contingency plans with my son’s father for when — not if — I relapsed. But I didn't.

It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Image: Thinkstock.

Ask Erin: Help! How Can I Break My Pattern Of Toxic Relationships?

It’s funny how you leave one toxic relationship for another. Is it that I deserve this treatment? No one deserves to be treated with such disrespect. In my mind I know that. In my heart, I know that also. My libido on the other hand, has a different attitude.

Looks like he's on his way to being item #4.

Don’t Do These Things At The Holiday Party

All of this potential socializing got me thinking about the most challenging types of people I’ve encountered at parties (on a regular basis, sadly). Think of this is as my personal PSA, because you don’t want to be that guy/gal.