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Feelings Don't Have Meanings 

Feelings are so unreliable.

Can we avoid judging our feelings and just accept them as they are?

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Can You Ever Get Over Your Body Being Too Much?

Do I want to spend the next half of my life battling a new set of reasons why my body is wrong?

Over the almost 40 years that I’ve been on this planet, I’ve absorbed the message — whether it’s about my hair, pale skin, or the size of particular body parts — that I’m too much.

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Rav’s Repro: Can We Stop Judging Other People’s Reproductive Choices? 

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When we talk about choice in the world of reproduction, we often distill it to views on abortion. We fight for the right to choose, to have agency over our bodies. Why, for some, does that exclude other choices?

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This Life Just Isn't Long Enough, So Let Those Grudges Go

Living it up means letting go of judgment and grudges. (Image Credit: UnSplash/Brooke Cagle)

I didn’t start out as a particularly easygoing person.

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How To Get Mom Hair

This momma’s hair is not up for debate. Image: Thinkstock.

There’s nothing wrong with moms who decide to go for a stereotypical “mom cut.” If they like it, or if it makes their lives easier, that’s fantastic. Personally, my hair after I had children remained just as important to me as it was before I had them. My hair has always been a huge part of my identity — candy-colored, funky, and so totally me.

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The Best Laid (Birth) Plans Are None of Your Business

The last thing we need is one more thing to feel inadequate about, one more thing to feel like we’re doing “wrong” when it comes to having a baby. Image: Thinkstock.

While people asking about our plan likely have good intentions, the conversation opens you up to so much judgment about how you’re planning to give birth.... Birth plans are personal, between parents and their care provider. We all make choices for our families that we feel are best, and at the end of the day, that’s what matters.

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I Visited Planned Parenthood For The First Time At Age 29

With almost a decade of various kinds of activism under my belt, I am more than familiar with the important work that Planned Parenthood does.

It had never occurred to me to visit [a Planned Parenthood].... And yet, in a culture where the rights and healthcare needs of people assigned female at birth are constantly under attack, it’s easy, even for someone like me, to have warped ideas about exactly what one will experience.

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Cursing, And Everything Else That Actually Isn't Messing Up Our Kids

Your children will look back on these moments as memories that make them giggle for years to come. Image: London Scout/Unsplash.

Every single day of our lives, since the moment that we bring home our beautiful child from the hospital — well, actually, well before that — we are faced with a multitude of decisions that will impact their lives. Some decisions are more serious than others. Yet the constant need to rip parents apart for the decisions they make is so unnerving to me that I simply can’t take it anymore.

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I Don't Think Parenting Is Miserable — I Actually Love It!

She's so much more than "those terrible twos" everyone keeps asking me about. Image: Thinkstock.

Nothing felt overwhelming. Not the initial cracked nipples or sleepless nights; not the constant babywearing or lullaby-singing; not the occasional cravings or muscle aches. Through hormonal changes and physical transformations (muffin top and lopsided breasts included), there was always her constant reassuring presence. She made it all worthwhile.

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How I Learned (And Unlearned) To Judge Women’s Bodies

Self Reflection

The thing is, we soak in these body-judging lessons from a very young age, before we even know how damaging they are. Some of the messages are implicit, like when we see a fat girl getting made fun of on the playground (or, for many of us, when we are the fat girl getting made fun of on the playground) and learn that being fat is not just wrong, it’s a punishable offense.

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