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Ask Erin: Does He Love Me Or Does He Just Want Sex?

I think I'm in love with a playboy, and I'm confused if he loves me or just he wants sex. I just wanted someone who would love me as nobody else could.

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In Support Of Ghosting

Is ghosting different in the world of online dating? I believe so.

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Knowing What You Want (In Bed And In Life)

As I stand there staring, I realize my mouth is actually watering — I’m a split second away from literally drooling over this guy.

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 I was excited! This was wild! No one could accuse me of playing it safe anymore!

On Learning To Take Leaps For Love

I was convinced that by taking a leap so out of character — so spontaneous and unexpected — I had changed the very trajectory of my love life.

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Overall, women don’t want to be 22 again.

Men May Prefer Younger Women, But Women Don’t Give A Sh*t

When men’s dating preferences were observed, the age of women they expressed interest in never (never!) deviated from the early 20s.

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While my post-OkCupid elation was temporary, I still value it.

Dating While (Semi) Damaged: OkCupid And Self-Esteem

Online dating is a form of personal marketing, which is why so many find it inorganic and unromantic. But self-promotion forces you to ponder certain questions. Why would anyone want to date you? What do you bring to a relationship? After the abuse, answering such questions was healing. It’s similar to the glimmer of hope you feel writing a cover letter, even in the depths of unemployment, as the task forces you to play up your best qualities. You have to reflect on your self-worth. It is required.

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Odd are much higher for romantic success if we put FOMO aside.

Does Hookup Culture Make Anyone Happy?

To her own admitted surprise, Fessler discovered that meaningless, detached hookups were emphatically not bringing any kind of bliss to college women.

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 really want to meet him, but I don’t know what to do because of the pictures.

Ask Erin: How Do I Tell The Guy I Met On Tinder I'm Not The One In My Pictures?

Dear Erin, OK, I am sure I’m going to catch hell for this, but I created a fake profile on Tinder. I mean, the profile isn’t completely fake, but the pictures are.

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