Sexual Assault

He's a ghost to me. He's left fingerprints all over my body, mind, and soul. Image: Thinkstock.

I Still Love My Abusive Ex-Boyfriend

[CN: emotional abuse and gaslighting, description of sexual assault.] As a three-time survivor of intimate partner violence, I hate what he did to me, but I don't hate the person with whom I fell in love — not even a little bit. My love for him will always exist.

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Trying to place yourself back in a position of power after an assault is an acceptable reaction — one that is likely more common than we suspect. Image: Thinkstock.

Flipping The Script Was My Sexual Assault Survival Tactic

[CN: rape, victim-blaming, mentions of sex work] I felt violated. I felt angry that no one had stopped him, or stopped me from going outside with him. That no one had noticed how intoxicated I was. That no one had cared. And most of all, I felt utterly confused as to why I still allowed him inside my house after everything that had happened.

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The premise is pretty simple: We each give you one thing to watch, one thing to listen to, and one thing to read over the weekend.

Read/Watch/Listen To This: Chill-Ass Sloth Edition

Here we are, your fearless Internet explorers (pun totally intended), back with another melange of web flotsam for you to scavenge.

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We’re all familiar with the anti-rape catchphrase of the modern era, that ‘No means no’, but far less resolute when it comes to the topic of coercion. Image: Zach Guinta/Unsplash.

When 'Yes' Means 'No': How I Let My Boyfriend Rape Me

The more he pressured and guilted me, the more distant I felt from him, and the less I felt like becoming sexually aroused was even a faint possibility.

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The Problem With Harvard's "Final Clubs"

Harvard. The very name brings up images of intellectual superiority. Harvard is associated with Presidents, Supreme Court Justices, and Matt Damon. The best of the best. The smartest of the smart. But also, apparently, the dumbest about rape.

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I see the face of my attacker in every anti-abortion law passed and every piece of anti-women legislation written and every anti-choice rally held.

Taking Away Access To Safe And Affordable Abortion Care Might As Well Be Rape

The first time I felt like I had lost control of my body was over six years ago, when I found out I was pregnant. Biology and time and every facet of my human existence seemed to be working against me. I was afraid and ashamed, because I could have been smarter and more accurate with my birth control and I wasn’t too young or too dumb. I knew better. But, thankfully, there was something I could do about it.

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More Bad News For Kesha (And For Victims Of Assault In General)

Kesha hit another roadblock in her campaign to be free from her producer/abuser/rapist this week. I’m sorry — alleged abuser and rapist. No one seems to be willing to convict Dr. Luke of the allegations of rape and abuse leveled against him by the singer.

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Laura Bates: Author Of Everyday Sexism, Full-Time Fighter Of The Good Fight

After receiving more than 100,000 accounts from women and girls around the world, Laura has compiled the stories and lessons from Everyday Sexism into a book named after the project.

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