We know how hard it is to get a shower, let alone think about having hot sex for hours (or minutes, let’s be real) on end.
Hello there, Peaches! Today we’re talking about sex for moms. Specifically, we’re giving you ways to have hot sex after baby (whether your baby is 7 weeks or 17 years old!) and we’re not holding anything back. So sit back, relax, and grab a glass a vino if you feel so inclined.
We know how hard it is to get a shower, let alone think about having hot sex for hours (or minutes, let’s be real) on end. Yet, if you’re in a partnership, intimacy (in many different forms) is a necessary component of a healthy relationship. Sex is something you need to make time for, even if that means scheduling sexy-time on your calendar. And there’s nothing wrong with that!
Connecting with your partner sexually will enhance your relationship in other areas so, even though sex may seem like just another task on your to do list, try to reframe how you think about it. It’s an investment in your relationship and in yourself. Regardless of your body type or current state of self-love, you deserve pleasure in the bedroom and we want to get you there (well, we’ll get you partway there, anyway — we’ll let your partner do the rest). There’s no reason why you can’t have hot sex after having a baby, trust us. Here’s how…
I got married 7 years ago and I’ve always heard about the 7-year itch. You know, the idea that after 7 years, your marriage will take a decline. Well, this past weekend I had some of the hottest sex of my life…with my husband! He scratched my 7-year itch in all the right places, even (and especially) a few he hadn’t scratched in a while. It was magical and lasted until 5:00 am (I’m still trying to catch up on sleep!).
One of the reasons why we had such an incredibly fun (and hot!) time was because just a few days before, I had expressed some insecurities about my body. As hard as it is to admit, I’m now about 100 pounds heavier than the first time my husband saw me naked when I was a mere 21 years old. A lot has changed in the past 15 years and yet my sex drive is back to where it was when I was 21…probably even stronger. That means, while I’m wanting hot sex more than ever, there’s been that insecurity holding me back.
When I talked to my husband about how I was feeling insecure, he stopped me mid-sentence to reassure me of how much he loves me and my body. Hearing him tell me how much he still loves my body, with my droopy post-breastfeeding boobs and ginormous booty, was incredibly sexy! It made me feel kinda like I was that hot 20-something all over again.
The older I become, the more I realize that communication is one of the sexiest things you can have in bed! It sure has made a difference in my marriage, creating more connection both in and out of the bedroom.
– Jen, Co-Founder Peachie Moms & One Sexy Mama
Here are our 4 ways to have hot sex after baby (even if that baby is heading off to middle school)!
What makes you feel sexy? If it’s being naked, then that’s fabulous! We know many mamas, however, prefer to feel a little covered up. You’d be surprised how many steals you can find on lingerie at places like Ross and TJ Maxx. When it comes to stockings, we can’t say enough good things about Kixies. They actually stay up on mamas of ALL sizes! We’re not saying you need leather and lace from head to toe, but a little bit of sexy fabric over your skin can go a very long way in making you feel super-hot!
Now that we’ve talked about clothing options, it’s time to accessorize, and we don’t mean with a strand of pearls — though they can be useful in the bedroom, too! The use of toys and erotic books are personal preferences. However, we encourage you to have an open mind because statistically 75% of women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone. Therefore, a little buzzzzz can go a very long way, and bedtime stories aren’t just for the kids! Women especially tend to become very aroused when reading erotica so, if you’re struggling to get in the mood, this might be a good place to start.
We also want to mention that Kegel balls can help to strengthen the muscles of the vagina, something that we mamas are often concerned about post-baby. Stronger Kegels mean stronger orgasms and fewer incidents of peeing when you sneeze (don’t act like you don’t know what we’re talking about!), so start clenching!
Lube Is Love
We’re just going to say these words and get them out of the way — vaginal dryness. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and it’s super common after becoming a mother. Our estrogen levels wax and wane throughout the motherhood journey, leading to a sometimes Sahara-like environment down there, which isn’t pleasurable for anyone. Thankfully, the solution is quite easy and can be a lot of…well…fun! Lube. Use lube. Lots and lots of lube! Think about sexy-time like a slip-and-slide, because without the slip, it’s hard to slide.
This article first appeared at Peachie Moms.