Adiba Nelson

It’s insane the number of ways people want to pigeonhole, categorize, and ultimately TEAR DOWN women. What’s even worse is that we, as women, buy into it. We run around in T-shirts that say “Real Women Do XYZ” or “Real Women ARE XYZ.” We post these memes and quotes and think they’re funny, but what are we really doing?

She unleashed a whole new level of #blackgirlmagic that I did not even realize I needed. And honey, if I didn't realize I needed it, well then hell, you know the world just wasn’t ready.

Then we had that talk that made my eye twitch: the budget talk.

"I will peer relentlessly into every cop car I pass with a young black man in it, stretching my neck to make sure that it’s not my son who’s been arrested for driving while black, walking while black, or breathing while black. I will hold my breath while listening to every news report of another black man that has been arrested, beaten, killed, and made an example of."

This book is real, folks. As well it should be –– it was written by one of the realest women on the planet.

Give me a minute please. I’m a little busy trying to decide if I should throw something, burn something, take my eyes out and dip them in bleach after reading that shit, have a woosa moment, or just. fucking. drink.

I don't love this. I don't love any part of it. I don't love the fact that a life is in my hands every moment of every day.

There wasn’t going to be any sparkle. There wasn’t going to be any new mommy magic.

I would break girl code. And if you love me, I hope you would do it for me too.

It is made up of women that I've known since I was 8, and women I met last week.