parenting

Whether she “officially” suffers from anxiety or not isn’t my main concern. My concern is that she feels heard, seen, and understood.

Did My Child Inherit My Anxiety Disorder? ​

She insists I sign the form she brought home from school right now even though it’s not due for five more days.

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I stand at the ready to remind these adults what ought to be common sense: mind your own plate. Stop policing how kids eat!

Other Adults, It’s Time To Stop Policing How Kids Eat

I stand at the ready to remind these adults what ought to be common sense: mind your own plate. Stop policing how kids eat!

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Before I met my wife, she struggled with an eating disorder for many years. Image: Thinkstock.

Dear Hospital: My Wife Doesn't Need To Get Her Pre-Pregnancy Belly 'Back'

My wife is lucky to have a good support structure and to have had the chance to do a lot of reflection and personal work around these issues, but at times, she still has overwhelming anxiety about how unfit and unattractive she feels.

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Why I Will Never Tell My Son To “Man Up”

When our boy was a toddler his emotional outbursts only received quick glances. Now that my five-year-old has officially entered boyhood, his crying looks awkward on him; he gets full-on stares.

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Photo By Dr. François S. Clemmons [CC BY-SA 4.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0)], from Wikimedia Commons

Things I Learned Binge-Watching Mister Rogers With A Toddler

I learned binge-watching Mister Rogers that he wasn’t just being comforting, he was rephrasing many of the things I was hearing in therapy.

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Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind? Image: Thinkstock

Stop Making Married Moms Feel Bad About Not Having Sex

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a time out from sex.

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Stop Complimenting Me For Supporting My Trans Child

I know people have the best intentions, but the reality is, I’m not a superhero, and I’m not the “best mom in the world" for parenting my trans child.

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It might seem frivolous to those who feel right at home being called "mom" or "dad," but many queer parents agonize over what their children will call them.

Not All Parents Are "Mom" Or "Dad" 

While it might seem frivolous to those who feel right at home in the titles "mom" or "dad," many queer parents agonize over what they want their children to call them.

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