Elizabeth Laura Nelson

Yes, a lot of parents are assholes. But you know what? A lot of people are assholes; some of them happen to have kids, some don’t. I can’t speak for all parents, and I wouldn’t want to try. But speaking as one particular person with kids, here’s what I wish my childfree friends would understand…

Attracted to the wrong people? Believe it or not, this is actually a good thing.

The problem with people pleasing: You’re trying so hard to be good. So how come you feel so bad?

No regrets about having kids? Maybe it’s time we all came clean.

Sexless marriage? Couples therapists estimate that around 20 percent of marriages are sexless. Don’t give up without giving these ideas a try.

As a person who writes about relationships for a living, I might be one of the people least in need of all this well-meaning advice, which usually amounts to clichés and can even veer into the territory of outright insults. What I need – what most of us need – is for people to hear me, and to trust me.

“Parenting” has become a competitive sport. But it’s kids who are losing. Let your kids screw up.

Real self-care: Forget pedicures and bubble baths.

Go ahead. Give in to the misery.

Reading in bed together, while it might not be a major milestone — like marriage or having children — truly is a significant event in a relationship.