Gigi Engle

It is a strange thing to find oneself at the tentative intersection of being female, sex positive, and in a long-term, monogamous relationship.

If we stopped buying into the idea that it takes a relationship to be whole, we’d all be better people. I'm happy I'm single!

Honestly, I’d say about 90% of the sex I have in my long-term monogamous relationship is “vanilla.” We are, believe it or not, a normal couple who does normal sex things just like anyone else. We are two people who know what the other likes and we do those things.

I have accumulated plenty of sex tips for fellow uncoordinated people. Embrace your quirks so everyone can get off! Here are seven of my absolute favorite, tried and true ways to keep sex fun and simple.

Blowjobs are good, wholesome, and very sexy fun. While they are enjoyable, I think we all know they don’t call it “job” without reason. It is a J-O-B.

Here is what it is like to date someone with anxiety (in my experience, anyway).

Men will say they want a smart woman, of course, but the moment they are faced with one; the moment a woman challenges him, or god forbid, proves him wrong, she becomes “hard to deal with,” “too intense” or “crazy.”

You don’t even have to be a good person to be incredible at sex, apparently (my ex proves this).

Recognizing your own faults in relationships is hard. Here are some definitive signs you’re actually the problem in your relationship.